The view from the center of a crisis always looks warped. Whether the crisis is one of the standard flavours of mid-life meltdown, or an emergent new type that will arise from ambient uncertainty and fear caused by the COVID-19 pandemic, it is hard to imagine not being in that dark phase when you are there.
I have learned over and over again that action trumps thought on these occasions. If you are at the bottom of your own happiness curve, challenge yourself to do nothing more than the 2+2+2 Method. The method is simple, achievable, and works in every case. It will change the energy and momentum in your life and help you to get unstuck.
When I broke up with my first wife, the mother of my three children, it was a dark and harrowing time. The inability to see my children on a daily basis, and the sheer gut-wrenching reality that our family would never be “together” again, resulted in a long phase of doubt, dismay and sadness… There were many nights when I lay awake on a mattress on the floor of the home of nearby relatives, thinking I had made a very big mistake… I kept running every day, stopping on that bridge in the rain one day for long enough to let the grief, loss and self-doubt catch up with me.
The wonderful thing about moments in life that are so painful that they take your breath away is that they do exactly that. And for an instant, you have no choice but to stop breathing.
The 2+2+2 Method described in Becoming Relevant (disclaimer, I was involved in the writing process) saved the Author’s life. In the last 7 years, it has helped a multitude of people climb out of a crisis pit, and reset their life on an upward trajectory.